So today is a very sad day. My best friend is moving to TX and I just had my last lunch with her before she leaves. It’s a bittersweet feeling because I’m excited for her new adventure with her hubby but I’m also sad because she’s one of my last standing friends that I have here in California.
Friends are important to everyone’s life. It’s nice to know you have that one person by your side to celebrate, laugh, cry, or just act like a total goofball with you when you don’t feel like acting your age. They teach you lessons that you can only learn through your experience together. Let’s face it, having a best friend is like a relationship and probably the longest long-term relationship you’ve hand your entire life, besides your family or at least for me it is.
Good friends are like a fine wine. They only get better with age.
I’ve have learned a lot of lessons over the 11 years I’ve known Nicole but these are my favorite.
LESSON #1: YOU’RE NEVER ALONE
There are times in life where it’s a little dark. Times where our hearts got broken and we thought the pieces never could be put back together. Times where our whole world turns upside in an instant. But there, next to you, is your bestie with super glue ready to glue that shit back together. Through those times you can always find your best friend.
LESSON #2: BE YOURSELF
Beeeeeeeee yourself! Genie tells Aladdin, the mom from “Just Friends” tells her son, and your best friend has told you even if you don’t want to hear it. Be your freakin’ self. No one is worth changing for and you can count on your bestie to call you out on it.
Nicole embraces my weirdness and very “ditzy” moments without judgement. Friends see you for you and accept you for it. They don’t try to change you or make you second guess how you are.
LESSON #3: BE FORGIVING
Fights, arguments, we all get in them. Do not waste precious time and hold a grudge. Life is to damn short to be mad at one another. In that moment you think that you’re right, they think that they’re right but in the end you both are wrong and you just need to forgive each other.
If I could take back every stupid fight Nicole and I have gotten into we would have a lot less gaps in our friendship timeline. But then I wouldn’t have learned the lesson of forgiveness. Friends teach you to forgive not only them but others in your life that have hurt you.
LESSON #4: SECRETS ARE SOMETIMES BETTER TOLD
Do you ever have a secret that is just eating away at you because you have to tell someone before you go insane? Well that’s when your best friend comes in. They are always there with a listening ear to listen to your secrets and keep them safe.
After you tell them, it’s like a weight has been lifted off your shoulder and you can finally breathe again. Sharing your secrets not only relieves stress but helps you build trust with one another.
LESSON #5: THERE’S A TIME AND PLACE TO BE A BITCH
Yep I said it. It’s ok to be a bitch when people take advantage of you or disrespect you. I’m a pretty nice person and did not know how to be mean. Nicole definitely taught me how to release my inner bitch if need be. You can be a nice person but don’t let people walk all over you. Release the dragon!
WHAT ARE SOME LESSONS YOU’VE LEARNED FROM YOUR BEST FRIEND?